The following thanks to my lovely Shaylee
"Ok your man-
Here is what I would like to see for you.
Someone who fully appreciates how much work and effort you put into your relationships. You are an excellent gift giver and I would love to see someone who can give you what you give to others. I feel to be a gift whisperer it takes someone who is observant and listens and I would love for you to be with someone who naturally does that for you, like you do for others.
I can’t wait to see you with someone who really takes the lead. I’ve seen how willing you are to be equal partners with someone and I think that’s great. However, with who you end up with I would love to see someone who makes you feel like the feminine wave you are and really give you a safe place for your softness to rest. Someone who sees the value of what you bring and won’t settle for less than your best, most vulnerable self – because that’s what he constantly gives.
I see you with someone who is competent enough to give you a run for your money, but doesn’t want to control you or your life. The love and bond you share is so satisfying there is no question or fear, only trust and support. He would have to be someone who is well accomplished. He probably has 4 self-owned *successful businesses so he knows what it takes and how to support you. ( plus he’d be super rich, so you can quit your job and focus on the projects you love instead of work. )
He would be taller than you by at least 6 inches, but I can imagine you liking realllly talllll guys ( the extra l’s are for tall emphasis) so maybe taller.
Someone who speaks romance as not his secondary language, but as his native tongue. Your days are so peppered with love that your insides are healed and filled. He sees you for who you are. Not just the face you put to the world, not just the parts of you people like to idolized or have used you for in the past, but the whole of you. Your soul, your mind, worships your body, welcomes your emotions, sees your games and can give you everything you need ( a strong hand or a soft caress) without effort, because it was literally what he was made for. *If there is something that does take effort he takes it upon himself to transform or is willing to transform with you.
I think that is really what I feel you want, is just a partner that wants to go through life and learn with you. Someone to keep you company as you figure out yourself and maybe hold the flashlight as you explore your insides and the world. Either being the stable support for you to come back to or being the partner in crime to wield the machete in your jungle search for adventure, or both.
This person would also be conscious enough to give you insight and assist with clarity on any subject. ( Most likely an N or a really smart/aware S. ) I can’t wait to have you be the one who is always surprised by how interesting, layered, stable, and exciting your relationship continues to be. I hear the pleased surprise in your voice as you tell me how much the relationship hasn’t petered out and every time you think the relationship has reached its maximum happiness/excitement/ interesting bits and has nothing new left to offer- it changes in the best way and your paradigm is expanded.
He is the place where you find relief and clarity when you're bothered or hurt. And the sex. Don’t get me started on the sex. Just as your relationship changes and builds in complexity and fullness- so does the sex. Your rhythms and body are matched perfectly and easily. Such Satisfaction that you don’t even care if you're cuddled after, because you are already asleep or maybe collapsed on the floor because your legs need a minute to remember how to work.
As I see you in this relationship I see you blossom and soften, while simultaneously becoming stronger and it’s beautiful. Oh and has a similar strain of humor and enjoys (tasteful/cunning) practical jokes. Ok your man-
Here is what I would like to see for you.
Someone who fully appreciates how much work and effort you put into your relationships. You are an excellent gift giver and I would love to see someone who can give you what you give to others. I feel to be a gift whisperer it takes someone who is observant and listens and I would love for you to be with someone who naturally does that for you, like you do for others.
I can’t wait to see you with someone who really takes the lead. I’ve seen how willing you are to be equal partners with someone and I think that’s great. However, with who you end up with I would love to see someone who makes you feel like the feminine wave you are and really give you a safe place for your softness to rest. Someone who sees the value of what you bring and won’t settle for less than your best, most vulnerable self – because that’s what he constantly gives.
I see you with someone who is competent enough to give you a run for your money, but doesn’t want to control you or your life. The love and bond you share is so satisfying there is no question or fear, only trust and support. He would have to be someone who is well accomplished. He probably has 4 self-owned *successful businesses so he knows what it takes and how to support you. ( plus he’d be super rich, so you can quit your job and focus on the projects you love instead of work. )
He would be taller than you by at least 6 inches, but I can imagine you liking realllly talllll guys ( the extra l’s are for tall emphasis) so maybe taller.
Someone who speaks romance as not his secondary language, but as his native tongue. Your days are so peppered with love that your insides are healed and filled. He sees you for who you are. Not just the face you put to the world, not just the parts of you people like to idolized or have used you for in the past, but the whole of you. Your soul, your mind, worships your body, welcomes your emotions, sees your games and can give you everything you need ( a strong hand or a soft caress) without effort, because it was literally what he was made for. *If there is something that does take effort he takes it upon himself to transform or is willing to transform with you.
I think that is really what I feel you want, is just a partner that wants to go through life and learn with you. Someone to keep you company as you figure out yourself and maybe hold the flashlight as you explore your insides and the world. Either being the stable support for you to come back to or being the partner in crime to wield the machete in your jungle search for adventure, or both.
This person would also be conscious enough to give you insight and assist with clarity on any subject. ( Most likely an N or a really smart/aware S. ) I can’t wait to have you be the one who is always surprised by how interesting, layered, stable, and exciting your relationship continues to be. I hear the pleased surprise in your voice as you tell me how much the relationship hasn’t petered out and every time you think the relationship has reached its maximum happiness/excitement/ interesting bits and has nothing new left to offer- it changes in the best way and your paradigm is expanded.
He is the place where you find relief and clarity when you're bothered or hurt. And the sex. Don’t get me started on the sex. Just as your relationship changes and builds in complexity and fullness- so does the sex. Your rhythms and body are matched perfectly and easily. Such Satisfaction that you don’t even care if you're cuddled after, because you are already asleep or maybe collapsed on the floor because your legs need a minute to remember how to work.
As I see you in this relationship I see you blossom and soften, while simultaneously becoming stronger and it’s beautiful. Oh and has a similar strain of humor and enjoys (tasteful/cunning) practical jokes."
